Holidays are steeped in tradition that is for sure. It's why we feel the warmth and work so hard to make it all "perfect". It's all "perfectly imperfect". None of the festivities ever really are a Hallmark card, but it's OK. We all bring a year's worth of what life handed us to the Christmas table and sometimes it isn't so easy to stare the traditions and memories in the face. Imperfect..Currier and Ives needs to learn to take a back seat to all of it..because Christmas is all about gathering and connecting with people that love each other. It's about hugging the babies and the grandparents, and having eye to eye contact with the folks you don't see very often. It's about learning to make new traditions and memories when life has shifted. It's about learning to live with loss or welcoming new babies. Whether your gathering is like mine, a huge Italian group of bear huggers, or a small intimate group, the presents aren't really under the tree. The true gift is finding one more year of being together and wrapping ourselves in swaddling clothes and feeling loved.